'Just let it go!'
How often have I heard that during the course of my feeling therapy journey?
'Leave the past in the past and move on'.
This is nonsense. I can't possibly 'let go' of a memory imprinted deep in my brain. 'Letting go' may give me some temporary relief. I can disconnect in the moment, but I can't kid myself that's it not going to be back. Maybe next week, maybe tomorrow, maybe in five minutes' time.
I can no more 'let go' of deeply imprinted memories and associated feelings and sensations, than I can let go of my leg. These memories, feelings and sensations are part of me and will remain so for as long I avoid processing them.
'Letting go, moving on'; it's denial.
I prefer the entreaty I actually first learnt in the twelve-step community: 'you've got to feel it to heal it'.
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